Mossy Feathers (She/They)

Communication.

Communication, communication, communication.

A running theme I’m noticing is a lack of communication between you and your friends about what’s going on. You’re asking us to tell you if it’s normal or not, yet it sounds as though you haven’t reached out to them to say something like, “hey man, what’s up? Everything good? Sorry I haven’t been talking as much, how’s life?”

I’m gonna take a wild guess and say that you’re cis male because this is a thing common with cis men: most of y’all don’t know how to communicate with one another. It’s totally possible that the ones who still do things together are actively communicating in the background.

So… What’s stopping you from hitting them up on Facebook, discord, telegram, signal, Whatsapp, etc?

What’s keeping you from trying to help carry the torch?

Relationships are two-way streets, after all. It’s exhausting when you’re always the one to initiate with someone. Like, trust me, that’s me. I’m the one who’s always having to initiate. Even as a very outgoing gal, it’s fucking exhausting.

The people who don’t regularly respond to my messages or only respond in short statements are the ones I let myself drift away from. They rapidly drain my energy and I lose interest in talking to them very quickly. Why would you hang around a brick wall?

The ones where I always have to initiate but are otherwise communicative are the ones that stay friends. Sure, I’m the one who has to remind them of my existence, but they have lives, they may have anxieties, they will typically have something interesting to say whenever I talk to them.

The ones who initiate with me are the ones who I end up being closest to. Those are the ones where friendship (or otherwise) feels effortless and will actually restore energy when I talk to them. They’re the ones who end up at the top of my friend’s list.

Communicate with your friends. See what’s going on in their heads. If you can’t do that, then of course you’re gonna drift away. Like, sorry to be blunt, but you may come off as a boring person. You gotta remind them that you aren’t by talking about hobbies and whatnot.

Having black characters isn’t woke anymore unless you’re in the deep south.

I’m pretty sure that’s exactly what she’s doing. She’s trying to “un-woke” her own series. What a fucking loser.